One day several months back one of my long time dear friends sent me a random text out of the blue that read,
“You are living your best life and I love you for it.”
That was it, no other explanation, just that one sentence.
Tears welled up in my eyes and I thought to myself, “yeah you’re right I really am living my best life”! I suppose I hadn’t really put much thought into it until she said it. My life…it’s not perfect. It’s not where I want to be exactly but it’s pretty darn good. That’s the beautiful thing about living your best life, it’s not always about being picture perfect or of what the world deems as the “best”. For me it didn’t just happen like that over night. It took some work and a lot of personal growth over time. Living out the best version of yourself and your very best life has always been a passion project of mine because not only do I want that for myself, I also want it for each one of you too!
So how did I get there? What steps did I take? How can you get there too?
Here’s my 5 tips!
1. I stopped making excuses.
This is big and one I think we all struggle with. We all make excuses for why we think we can’t get to where we want to be in life. We say things like, “I don’t have enough money” or “I don’t have enough time” or “I don’t have the right people in my life” or “I’m not good enough; I don’t have what it takes” or “I’m too young or too old”. I could go on and on with the list of excuses but that’s all they are, just excuses. I stopped making them and started speaking things that I knew to be true and every day I remind myself of those things.
2. I started doing things that I love.
I’ve had countless conversations with men and women alike that somewhere along the way they forgot to incorporate into their lives the things they love. I get it, our lives change, we step into new seasons, we get busy and before we know it we stopped doing the things that once brought us joy. I believe the things that we love and enjoy hold purpose. We were each created so beautifully with unique gifts and talents that we should be doing and sharing. When we are sprinkling pieces of the things we enjoy into our lives each day we become better wives, better husbands, better parents, better friends. When was the last time you did something you truly love?
3. I made big leaps towards my purpose and what I was created to do.
For years I questioned what my purpose was. I wasn’t the little girl that said, “When I grow up I want to be ____”. No, I had no idea what I was good at or wanted to do. In fact I ignored signs that said go here, do this, because this is your gift. I thought my gift wasn’t good enough so I chose not to share it. We all have something inside of us that was put there on purpose to carry out something so important. I stopped believing the lies and started doing.
4. I stopped caring what people were going to think of me and chose to be ME.
There are always going to be the people that won’t get you, won’t understand why you do what you do, people who will poke fun, or have an opinion. That’s just a fact, but you can’t let what other people think determine how you live out your life. You are going to be too much for some and not enough for others. That’s ok, we are all so different and different on purpose. So step into the person that you were created to be and be all of YOU! Own it!
5. I made a choice- love it or hate it.
No matter where we are in life, there are going to be things we don’t love about it. There are going to be things that trip us up to think it’s a horrible life when in fact it just might be the most amazing life. We get to choose what we do with our lives and we get to choose whether we are going to love it or hate it. It really can be that simple! Even the days that are not exactly what I want them to look like, I make the choice to love the really good aspects of it.
Do you know people that are living their best lives? Tell them! Sometimes just by you acknowledging that, hey I see you and I’m so proud of who you are and where you are going in life makes such an impact!
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