Party of One
Hi my name is April and yes I’m single. 🙋🏻
This is a topic I don’t often talk about. I tend to keep this area of my life pretty private. For so many reasons I’ve chosen not to open up much about it but probably not the reasons you might guess. For starters, does anyone really care to hear about this part of my life? Secondly, I don’t ever want a pity party because quite honestly there are so many things I love about being single. And lastly, I don’t want my experience to ever step on anyone’s toes. Because whatever season of life you are in, whether you are married, newly single, divorced, or long time single, that’s your journey. We all have different journeys to finding love and that’s what makes each one beautiful in their own way.
I was challenged to share some things I’ve learned on my journey of being single and so I’m hoping that if you are reading this and in that same season you will be encouraged! I felt like what better time to share than during the month of love, the month of Valentine’s Day! ❤️
I’ve noticed over the years just how much people dislike Valentine’s Day. And most who are single, with no one special to spend it with, tend to dread the day altogether! I’m always a little surprised by all the negative comments I hear about the holiday. It’s suppose to be a day of love and showing that to the people around us we care most about. Unlike most single men and women, I actually really love the day! I get excited about it and look forward to it. I’m the girl that walks down the Valentine’s Day aisle and has a hard time not wanting to buy one of everything. Give me the cutesy cards, the candies, the flowers, the heart shaped pillows and the stuffed bear that says I love you! I’ll take all things hearts, red and pink! 🙂
I’ve been in a season of singleness for a very long time. I know this season well and perhaps dare I say better than most. It has its ups and downs for sure, but don’t most seasons of life? I’ve learned to adapt, try new things, go it alone and most importantly strive to make all those moments of being on my own fun and joyful regardless of my relationship status.
I don’t have it all figured out and some days I’d give anything to have someone hold my hand through this life so I could stop making the hard decisions on my own but I’ve learned to soak in this season of my life the best I can. So if your reading this and your single too and your struggling with having to check the box next to single I want to encourage you!
1. There are worst things than being single.
My mom tells me this often but she’s right, it’s true. If your single this is not the end all, be all. There are worst ways to live your life. For example, like being stuck in a horrible relationship with someone who is not good for you. Wouldn’t you rather be single than to be in a relationship with someone that is just not meant for you? So count your blessings. This isn’t so bad.
2. Being single has perks too.
I can’t begin to tell you the number of things I’ve been able to do because I’ve been single. The opportunities I’ve been given because I had the time and space in my life to dedicate to them. I’m so grateful for this time in my life to explore new things, figure out who I am, and invest time into the things I really care about. What opportunity in your life have you been able to step into because singleness allowed you the time and space to do it?
3. Being single doesn’t define you.
That check mark in the box next to single does not define you! Do I need to repeat that?! You are so much more than your relationship status! I hope you know that and believe that! You are beautiful and worthy and loved no matter your status. Use this gift of time in your life to find yourself and run after the things in life that light you up and never ever believe that you are nothing because you are alone.
4. Being single means buy the dress.
Just because you are single doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate. Buy the pretty little red dress you’ve been eyeing and take yourself on a date. You’d be surprised how good it can be to value the time you have by yourself. Who says just because you don’t have a date means you can’t take yourself to dinner or buy yourself the flowers? It’s ok to celebrate you!
5. You can choose to either love this season or hate it.
It’s your chose. It’s just that simple and like any other part of life! Choose to soak it in, enjoy where you are at, or you can sit and wallow in it. This season has not always been rainbows and butterflies for me and there are days I kind of hate it but when I choose to relish what’s good about it, I’m so much happier! Don’t let this special time of your life slip away, because I have a feeling that one day when your married you’ll be wishing for a day to yourself. 😘
So this Valentine’s Day, I hope you buy yourself the pretty little red dress, a boutique of flowers and throw a dinner party for a “party of one”!
This holiday should be about love not your relationship status. So whether you are married or single always remember to love who you are first!
I’ve linked up my favorites from Wayfair to recreate your own party of one table setting below! Check out their site HERE for so many other great deals!
And if you already have that special someone in your life don’t worry, I’ve linked up some favorite couples items below as well! ❤️
If you like this kind of post be sure to let me know in the comments below. I’d be happy to share more on being single!
I hope your Valentine’s Day is full of love!